The absolute BEST way to not judge is to have a different perspective. I mean.....really think about it. To judge someone is to selfishly think about things from you own perspective and "judge" that person accordingly. The word says that GOD and GOD alone is our vindicator.
Psalm 17: Jesus is our Vindicator
Have people ever misjudged you? Have you ever felt betrayed by those who are in your very own family? God has been putting this on my heart lately for some reason: Jesus is our Vindicator. No matter how dark a situation may seem, know that God is there, and He will deliver those who trust in Him. If God be for you, who can be against you? Remember what happened to David? Saul kept persecuting Him, but the Lord was David's deliverer! Saul eventually died and David became King of Israel. God knows how to turn things around in your life.
Here is the Psalm which I feel will give many comfort, knowing that whoever is against you -- there is a God who is for you!
Jesus is my VINDICATOR! Confess that to others, and pray this prayer knowing that God will deliver you from those who have oppressed you!
I have been hearing this in my Spirit over and over again so strongly that I just had to share this with you:
Psalm 17 (New International Version)
Psalm 17
A prayer of David.
1 Hear, O LORD, my righteous plea;
listen to my cry.
Give ear to my prayer—
it does not rise from deceitful lips.
2 May my vindication come from you;
may your eyes see what is right.
3 Though you probe my heart and examine me at night,
though you test me, you will find nothing;
I have resolved that my mouth will not sin.
4 As for the deeds of men—
by the word of your lips
I have kept myself
from the ways of the violent.
5 My steps have held to your paths;
my feet have not slipped.
6 I call on you, O God, for you will answer me;
give ear to me and hear my prayer.
7 Show the wonder of your great love,
you who save by your right hand
those who take refuge in you from their foes.
8 Keep me as the apple of your eye;
hide me in the shadow of your wings
9 from the wicked who assail me,
from my mortal enemies who surround me.
10 They close up their callous hearts,
and their mouths speak with arrogance.
11 They have tracked me down, they now surround me,
with eyes alert, to throw me to the ground.
12 They are like a lion hungry for prey,
like a great lion crouching in cover.
13 Rise up, O LORD, confront them, bring them down;
rescue me from the wicked by your sword.
14 O LORD, by your hand save me from such men,
from men of this world whose reward is in this life.
You still the hunger of those you cherish;
their sons have plenty,
and they store up wealth for their children.
15 And I—in righteousness I will see your face;
when I awake, I will be satisfied with seeing your likeness.
In Isaiah 54:17, the Lord says the weapon will form, but it won’t prosper, and that EVERY tongue that rises up against us, WE will condemn. Every tongue or every word means just that! This includes every lying word, every derogatory word, every false rumor, every condemning word, every ridiculing statement, every bad name, and the list goes on. Before I proceed, I just want to give a different translation to the same Scripture above:
But in that coming day no weapon turned against you will succeed.
You will silence every voice raised up to accuse you.
These benefits are enjoyed by the servants of the Lord;
Their vindication will come from me.
I, the Lord, have spoken! Isaiah 54:17 (NLT)
Without believing God's word, that it is the truth, we have no hope. I choose this day to believe the He and HE alone is my vindicator!!