Thursday, April 22, 2010

Room 223

Kelley says.........................................I have spent the last 10 days in somewhat of a fog. As I mentioned in my last post, I went away for 24 hours to deal with all the raw emotions I have right now. On the way to the hotel I felt like I was going to barely be able to keep it together just to get myself checked in. But driving there I just kept hearing and seeing the words "I AM STRONG". I thought to myself ya know, I have lost a child for crying out loud and then my mother! I really am strong and I'm going to be able to do this.  

I got settled. I got out my journal, pen, bible and my MP3 player. I then took off all my clothes to change into the clothes I sleep in. I stood there and stared at myself in the long mirror completely naked. I looked at my body and the realization that unless I am miraculously healed, no matter what happens, no matter what procedure I end up having done, I will never look the same way I do at this very moment ever again after my surgery.

I had so many emotions flowing through me. I felt like someone drew blood from me only they didn't take blood, they took a huge part of ME, of my life, of my family, of my job, my normal routine. Then I was injected with change, fear, sadness, grief, questions, anger, nervousness, anxiety, and much more.

My brain doesn't stop. Since being diagnosed, I haven't really felt myself being overcome with fear or worry. It's really weird and hard to explain. Its more like just thousands of questions zooming through my head 90 miles an hour. And it is very hard to even pull one of the thoughts out to concentrate on because there are so many.

I started to journal by writing down every single thing I was angry at God about. I could feel the anger rise up within me along with sadness and tears. I ripped out a page of my spiral, wrote "GOD" in big letters, laid it on the bed and proceeded to beat it with my hairbrush. After just a few times, I stopped and grabbed my MP3 player to listen to some worship songs I had put on there about healing. And some other songs that just make me very emotional. I knew I was sad and needed to go ALL the way there rather than run from it. Its at times like these I would normally bury my head in Deryl's shoulders. But this was between me and my God.
I listened to the worship music and raised my hands in worship to him. I didn't have any bend in my elbows at all. They were stretched all the way out. When one got tired I'd just put it down and then switch to the other. I knew if there was just a way to touch the hem of his garment, I'd get through this.

When I think about how this isn't fair I think "What is fair?" We aren't born with some kind of guarantee life is ever going to be fair. Suddenly, I could feel the real Kelley slowly start to stand up. You know, the one on the inside who got knocked down when she found out she had breast cancer. Those words kept coming back to me...I AM STRONG. Then the fighter in me said "Where's the boxing gloves?"

This isn't going to get me. I am going to accomplish more knowing that I have cancer than I ever could have without it. I've always been a hard headed, controlling, stubborn brat! So I might as well take that part of my personality to take cancer by the horns and take it down. I am a fighter, I am not a quitter, I AM STRONG! This is about me grabbing hold of my God. This is about cancer NOT determining my fate nor my destiny.

Could my cancer actually be a gift to me? I mean, God is entrusting ME to take this and do something with it. I can't sit around and feel sorry for myself any longer. My attitude is everything, I truly believe it. Instead of letting this ruin my life, it is motivating me to eat better, to live better, to get better.

I grabbed my beat up piece of paper with God's name on it, smoothed it all out as nice as I could and held it tight on my chest and the following is what I said to him... The biggest part of me belongs to you God. I am a sold-out believer. You have my heart God. No matter where this journey takes me, I'm yours. I may have questions & I may not understand this, but I can only love you more. I thought to myself...

  • What if through my journey and how I handle this experience, one person came to know my savior? Then it would be worth it.
  • What if instead of making my children run away from God, it made them run to the arms of their God? Then it would be worth it. 
  • What if my good friend who is grieving over the loss of someone dear to her found healing? Then it would be worth it. 
  • What if one woman saved her life because she "Felt the Ta-Tas"?  Then it would be worth it.
I realized at this moment that I am a survivor NOW. I don't have to wait on surgery or chemo or radiation or some doctor to tell me so!! God gave me some great ideas on how to reach even more women through this and I was sure to write them all down. I felt so much better. I tossed and turned all night and woke up in tears, again. It has been a sad day and I went to visit Deryl at work and he was also having a sad day. My take away from all this emotional work is that I know I can face whatever lies ahead of me.

I will never be able to express my gratitude to all the people in our circle and even the people who don't even know us who have been reaching out to us. I so strongly feel your thoughts and prayers and I appreciate them greatly. You will never know how much you are helping us right now. I love you all and hope this extremely long post blesses you today.


  1. Wow Kelley that is very powerful. I love you and am praying for you all through this. Big hugs :-)

  2. Deryl and Kelley...Hi I am Becky, Sandy St Amours' sister she referred me your blog...the blog of her angel as she refers to you. I read every bit. A journey I am still on and understand only to well where you are and have been in this short amount of time. My prayers have been with you for the last few days since Sandy shared your news. They will remain with you all. Your selfless sharing of information was a blessing to me reminding me of so much I have learned. God is so amazing in the strangest places and times in our lives. I have met online so many people that walked this path and lifted me with their words and insights. I would be glad to share those sights with you. When Sandy emailed me I immediately responded that she needed to know that you were in good hands and that God was going to strenghten and use you in ways you have yet to imagine. The blog proves that and the journey has just begun. Romans 8:28-39 Your sister in Pink and the Lord

  3. Kelley...Wow!!! What a day you had yesterday. You are one of the strongest women I know Kelley. Isn't it wonderful that God can handle even our anger towards Him? You are sold out for God and He knows that and everyone that has ever came in contact with you knows that. Thank you for being so transparent in sharing your story with everyone. I know many, many women are going to be blessed and encouraged by your strength and courage!! I love you my friend!!!

  4. It is if God guided your thoughts and hand to write this blog! I can feel the Holy Spirit all over this! Thank you for allowing God to use you and for sharing this blog! This scripture came to my mind and heart.
    NLT Psalm 18:1-3 & 28-30
    1)I love you, Lord; you are my STRENGTH. The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety.
    28) You light a lamp for me. The Lord, my God, lights up my darkness. In your STRENGTH I can crush an army; with my God I can scale any wall. God's way is perfect. All the Lord's promises prove true. He is a shield for all who look to him for protection.

    Love you all dearly, God bless you and yours abundantly xoxoxo <3

  5. Kelley~
    Wow! Thank you for letting us all in, what a blessing to call you as a friend. God is doing some amazing work in your life, and your families! I am anxoius to sahre this road with you. We are praying for you, Daryl and the girls!
    Love, Clint, Stephanie and Shaye