Monday, April 26, 2010

My Prince Charming

Kelley says...........................................Well, after the creation of this blog I guess the secret is totally out that Deryl totally rocks! It is funny how before I was diagnosed, I didn't ever really feel comfortable telling anyone how truly wonderful he is and how great our marriage is. I mean, we have only met one other couple in our entire marriage that has had a relationship that even comes close to ours. And that is the couple who counseled us early on in our marriage. At times we have said out loud that we have one of the best marriages that we know of but people kind of give us this funny look. I know a lot of people have strained marriages so it is awkward saying how wonderful our marriage is or how amazing Deryl is without feeling bad for the person I would be saying it to.

So, I just feel like now is the time to say it out loud and be proud of how God has blessed me. Besides, I REALLY need to focus on some positive things right now. I think if anything, doing this will give other women hope that their husband truly can be wonderful or if you are single that the best guy for you is worth waiting for.

I imagine what it must be like for someone who maybe doesn't have a great relationship before being diagnosed. I imagine that for a while, their marriage would be a lot better. That the other spouse would be very loving and feel sorry for the way they have acted in the past. But that is not the case here. Deryl was Mr. Husband of the Universe long before my diagnoses. He helps me around the house. He NEVER leaves clothes or underwear laying on the floor. He does anything I ask of him. He puts the girls to bed and prays with them every single night. He spends all of his time with me and the girls. He lets me do whatever I want. He is understanding and patient. He is the kindest most non-judgmental person I have ever met in my entire life. He is the best daddy to my daughters. He loves me deeply. He is Mr. Positivity. He can find a positive way to look at things in any given situation. He loves God and desires to do his will. He calls me many times and texts every single day. He calls me even when he just runs to the store. He lets me do whatever I want. He has worked three jobs at a time before just so I could stay home with our babies. He has worked more than one job on many occasions. He puts up with me!! He tolerates my moodiness. He accepts what little family I do have. He puts me first always. He shows me great respect. He rolls out the red carpet for me. He makes me feel like a princess. He is extremely smart but yet he doesn't act like he's better than anyone else. He honors me in every way. He makes me feel like there is no other woman on this planet that is prettier than me. And did I mention that he lets me do whatever I want?

So as you can see, he indeed is Mr. Wonderful. Our marriage started out rough. But when the couple I mentioned above counseled us, we did everything they told us to do. Whatever they did, we did too because we knew they had something special. One of the biggest pieces to our marriage is that we are always looking for ways to make each other happy. I always wonder what I could do to make Deryl a happier husband. I want him to look forward to coming home at the end of a long day at work. I want my home to be his safe haven. And I know that Deryl does the same thing. We just always look for how we can serve one another rather than ourselves and I am 100% sure that this is the main ingredient for our successful marriage.

I never in a million years thought that I could love Deryl more or that I could have an even greater marriage than I did before. But this disease has brought us even closer together than before. I watched my mom die from this horrible disease with a husband from hell. I don't know how she did it. But I am very, very grateful that I do not have to experience that.

So Deryl, I just want to say thank you a million times over for being my hero husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  1. We love y'all! Thanks for being such incredible examples for everyone- for loving each other deeply and for showing almost married couples like us what to do and what a marriage should look like! Praying for you and your family in the days ahead!

  2. Thank you for sharing that! I love to hear couples proclaim their love and devotion for each other. In a world where people say it can't be done there you are a godly example of what a marriage should be and could be! I have always thought the world of Deryl! I am so glad you have found each other! And yes, I too have seen men leave their wives or treat them badly when faced with cancer. It is encouraging to see you and Deryl growing closer together through all of this. Again, thanks for being transparent it truly is a blessing! Especially tonight I God really spoke a word to my soul about how you look for ways to please Deryl when he comes home from work. I do need to do a better job of looking for ways to please Eric on a regular bases. I read this book called the 5 love languages but I guess sometimes I get lazy. Anyway love you and thanks for sharing!!!